🎾 A Never-Ending Match: What Improv Taught Me About Human Connection
Author: Nisha Chao Instagram / Photo by 蔣龜
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Have you ever felt overwhelmed in a conversation, like you're being pelted with tennis balls from every direction?
Improv theatre gave me the metaphor I never knew I needed:
Conversation is a game of catch.
In a scene, one actor throws out an idea, the other catches and responds. Over time, this simple back-and-forth builds trust, rhythm, and play.
It’s not just theatre—it’s life.
1. 🎾 The Overwhelming Ball Machine
Maggie walks through the door.
Her dad and brother instantly launch into rapid-fire questions:
"You’re back!"
"How’s work?"
"Was the hike good?"
"Want some cake?"
Each ball comes flying faster than she can handle.
They mean well—but she’s suffocating.
Through improv, Maggie learns to name what’s happening:
“Hold on. Let me answer first.”
“You just threw three balls in a row!”
And she sees: some people love throwing balls. Whether you catch them or not? That’s not their concern.
2. 🗣️ The One-Man Show
David tries to share a story at work.
His colleague-Meatball catches it—only to go off on his own 20-minute monologue about his childhood trauma.
Every game turns into a one-player match.
David used to stay and listen. But now, he chooses when to play:
If he wants to listen, he stays.
If not, he leaves.
It’s not selfish. It’s boundaries.
3. 💥 The Interrupter
When Sunny initiates something—her dad tends to intercept the moment consciously or unconsciously.
At family dinner, she heads to the restroom.
Dad yells, “Let’s toast to Grandma!”
Friends come over, she’s guiding them to the balcony.
Dad shouts, “Snacks in the kitchen!”
In her mind, she sees it now:
She gently tosses a soft ball.
He hurls a giant one, knocking hers aside.
And now that she sees it, she has options:
Throw a bigger one.
Catch his first.
Or kick his to the sidelines.
4. 🧺 The Over-Responsible Catcher
Aaron and George’s first date.
Aaron shares how a stranger helped him with his wallet.
George: “That’s lucky.”
Aaron: “I smiled and said thanks!”
George: “Yeah, you’d want to.”
Aaron: “Saw purple bougainvillea swaying in the breeze.”
George: “People are influenced by their environment.”
Aaron: “Then I stepped in a puddle!”
George: “Yeah, that could be startling.”
Every ball was caught—but gently placed into a basket.
No rally. No rhythm.
Just... silence.
Aaron knew: George was kind. But not his match.
Coffee ended. So did the connection.
5. 🥳 The Joyful Group Rally
Yuki visits her childhood home.
Everyone’s laughing, interrupting, replying, playing.
Some serve.
Some catch.
Some just enjoy watching.
The energy flows.
No fixing needed. Just keep playing.
💡
While watching Love on the Spectrum U.S., I saw a coach help Abby learn conversation by literally tossing a ball.
I teared up.
That’s what we do in improv. That’s what we do in life.
Imagine every interaction as a game of catch, and suddenly things become clear:
Who’s throwing?
Who’s catching?
Who needs rest?
And most importantly—who makes you want to keep playing?
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